Hi, 26F Malaysian here. Long weekend starting right now since its 12am alr but somehow I got the midnight scaries lol
Context: Moved to Singapore about a year ago (cue the “aiya so near only what” 😅)
I’m really grateful to be here, but there’s something I’ve been struggling with that I don’t really know how to process until now.
I left my only parent back in Malaysia, and sometimes the anxiety gets quite intense. It’s not just missing home… it’s the constant “what if something happens and I’m not there?” and “is this really worth it?” Especially if they don’t reply for a while, my brain just jumps straight to worst case scenarios. And I know no amount of preparation can ever help prepare if what is to come…. I also try to send back money whenever I can…
I also once watched a video where someone said they only see their parents a few times a year, and the host broke it down into “that means you’ll only see them X more times in your life”… and ever since then I can’t un-hear it. It just stuck with me in a really uncomfortable way 😭😭
And I know I’m still young and this is probably part of growing up and becoming independent, but at the same time I feel like… I don’t know how to deal with this feeling properly.
For those of you living away from your parents, especially overseas, especially as an only child or with one parent, how do you cope with this kind of overthinking and worrying about your parents? Does it get better with time, or is there something you actively do to manage it?
Would really appreciate hearing experiences from my abangs and my kakaks… 🥺
happy long weekend ahead, semua!