u/Bunnybunboi

First I want to say that I wasn’t sure which flair is correct for this post because it’s a vent post but it’s about my dog with multiple level 3 bites, so if this flair is incorrect please let me know!

I have a dog named Happy with 1 level 2 bite and 2 level 3 bites and while I think if he was able to meet someone multiple times and get to know them he’d be fine with a pet sitter, that’s absolutely not something I’m going to risk or ask anyone else to risk. That means if I want to go anywhere I’d have to drive there and take him with me which is fine because I don’t like to travel at all and I know that if I had to he’d absolutely love it.

My mom is getting her masters from an online school in a different state and so to walk she has to travel there and her and my dad and sister will be flying there because they get free flight benefits (I do not have those benefits) but I’m obviously unable to take my dog on the flight with me so I planned to drive there. It’s a long drive, like 12 hours and I’ve been driving for 4 years I think (I got my license at like 22 😅) with my only long trips being 4 hours round trip in a day and a 6 hour drive one day and then back the next, but I feel confident enough I could make the trip in two days for her graduation with my dog with me. When I brought this solution to my mom about still being able to go she said to let her think for a few days. When she asked to talk again she said that she’d prefer I didn’t go because she would be to worried about me making the drive to be able to enjoy her moment, which I completely understand and respect. I’m just absolutely gutted that I’ll be unable to be there to help celebrate her when this is a huge moment for her and she’s been working her damn ass off. She also understands why I can’t go and hasn’t expressed disappointment but she also will keep those feelings hidden. It also doesn’t help that my little brother is refusing to go for no reason other than being disinterested in anything other than himself with has really hurt my mom, If I could trust him with my dog I’d ask him to take care of him, but he’s not even able to take care of his own fish so that’s an absolute no. My mom did say if he saving her on a pet sitter but still.

I just feel so guilty but also upset at myself for this but don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. I even sat down to right a list of everyone he likes and their either to far away or also attending the graduation or not trustworthy. I got so desperate I was even thinking of asking his vet who he loves and I know pretty well but I don’t think she’d want to. Thank you for reading 💞