basically the title. i’ve had my cat since 9/2020, and i met my partner in 8/2021, so he’s been a part of my cat’s life for most of it. we broke up and i got my own place a month ago, and my cat is really struggling. he walks around the house crying, i’ve never heard him make noises like this before, but he wails and searches everywhere. he comes to me and lets me pet him for a bit, then will run to the front door yelling at me. he won’t let me sleep, he gets really upset when i lay down no matter what time it is. he will wake me up however he can and rarely settle down in bed. if he hears a neighbor open a door, he gets so excited and runs to the front door and sits there. he is usually the cuddliest cat i have ever met, and he’s wanted attention, it just seems like mine isn’t enough. playing, cuddling, etc., he’ll only be happy for a short amount of time before getting restless. he really bonded with my partner and loved cuddling with him. i just wish i could help him. my partner also got a cat last year that my cat bonded with, and now it’s just me and him. i know he would benefit from a friend, but i’m nervous about getting another cat at the moment, i don’t know if i’m ready. but i also don’t want to be selfish if that’s what would help my cat. any advice would be appreciated ❤️
u/Bulky_Cranberry_8226
I am 24, diagnosed with autism as a child, and I talk so much. I am VERY longwinded (as you’ll soon find out). It’s not about anything in particular, I’m not an over-sharer or anything, I just talk a lot. I have tried VERY hard in my life to become a good conversationalist, which has been extremely difficult but it’s something I’m proud of. I don’t talk over people, I love to listen to others and I do make a conscious effort to not bring conversations back to me, which I think I do a good job of. I really enjoy conversations. But when I do get to really talk, I type really long texts, my statements kind of ramble… I think I’m just trying to be thorough? But it bores people and irritates them.
The other day, some friends and I were playing a game, and one of them flat out asked me how much I’m going to keep talking. Today, I didn’t text my other friends for a while, and when I did, my best friend would hardly even reply, I guess because there was so much to reply to. They made a somewhat passive aggressive comment, essentially saying I talk nonstop, and when I apologized they said they have their “yap days” too. But I am like this pretty much every day unless I’m really depressed. I find myself frequently stopping myself mid-story and apologizing for talking so much, and trying to shift the subject to something else all while keeping it all light-hearted so nobody feels guilty, but then they say it’s okay, they want to hear it. It’s very confusing.
I try to just talk very little, or not talk at all sometimes, especially when I feel shut down, but even then I can’t seem to make it stick. I just have to talk and talk and talk. Even my ex had to tell me one time while driving us to the store, “I don’t know what you’re talking about, and it’s confusing me and distracting me so I would really like you to stop talking.” I was just talking about work (I was a music teacher). How can I please stop talking so much? Does anybody have any advice for me? It’s devastating to feel this way and have such a hard time shutting up. I feel so annoying and I just want to do a good job and I try so hard and I just can’t figure out a way to stop. Any help would be so appreciated