I’m 24 and I feel like I’m missing out on something everyone else figured out a long time ago. I’ve only had sex 3 times in my life, and it’s not even like I don’t try to talk to women or put myself out there. It just never really goes anywhere.
Meanwhile I see dudes around me getting girls constantly, like it’s just normal for them. It makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong. Sometimes I think it’s because I’m not that “thug” type or super aggressive personality-wise. I’m more laid back, chill, and I don’t really play games or act like someone I’m not.
Ppl say “just go outside,” but most people I see are meeting their girls on Instagram anyway… and I get 0 engagement on there, so it feels like I’m losing both ways.
Also, when I do try to approach girls in person, it feels like they’re already on defense mode or just not open to being talked to. Like they got that “don’t approach me” face, and it makes it hard to even try without feeling awkward. On top of that, I don’t feel like girls check me out at all, which just adds to feeling invisible.
I’m not ugly (at least I don’t think so), I work, I try to keep myself together, but it still feels like I’m invisible half the time. It gets frustrating watching everyone else move through life like this is easy, while I’m stuck overthinking every little interaction.
I don’t even know if I want advice or if I just needed to get this off my chest. It just sucks feeling like you’re behind in something that seems so normal for everybody else.