Hi, I just need to vent and see if anyone relates to this.
I’m 5’1 and currently 108 lbs. I’ve been losing weight slowly since January in a healthy, controlled way (calorie deficit, eating protein, not starving myself). I feel fine physically, no dizziness, no extreme restriction, nothing like that.
For context, I’ve always been naturally skinny my whole life. But around 25, I gained weight (birth control + binge eating), and I was honestly not in a good place physically or mentally. The thing is… no one said anything back then. No one was “concerned.”
Now that I’m losing weight and getting closer to how I used to look, suddenly everyone has something to say: “Don’t get too skinny” “Be careful” “Are you doing this in a healthy way?”
And it honestly frustrates me because I am doing it the right way. It’s been slow progress. I didn’t even notice changes until like 2–3 months in.
What bothers me the most is that I still don’t feel fully comfortable in my body yet. I still have some fat I want to lose, and I just want to feel confident wearing things like crop tops and shorts without feeling insecure. I’m not trying to become underweight or unhealthy. I just want to feel good and confident again.
I also feel like part of this is coming from past comments about my body when I gained weight. That stuck with me more than I realized.
Also, my sister has always been skinny and no one ever questions her body. But because I changed, people suddenly feel the need to comment on mine.
I guess my question is: Has anyone else experienced this? Why do people stay silent when you gain weight, but get “concerned” when you lose it?
And how do you deal with people constantly commenting on your body when you’re just trying to improve yourself?
I’m open to honest advice, just please be respectful.