I’ve been friends with A and B for around 10 years. We all met friend C in high school but we weren’t that close until recently, we all started catching up again. My friendship with C I would say we are pretty close, and I consider them a close friend. A and C I wouldn’t consider them close friends but just friends, since A was always cautious about C due to personal reasons.
B and C they have gotten extremely close during this time and consider themselves best friends. They’ve gotten close since B goes to C to talk about boy problems because B believes that A and I are too judgy for them. (I have no problem with this because I know that we can be. But I also know that B is the type to only hear what they want to hear.) B, C and I all had a trip together so we’ve all gotten closer than before which is why my bond with friend C is now close. C told me about B’s boy problems before B knew but eventually B found out and didn’t care. A on the other hand didn’t know much till a bit after when B finally told A about everything to “catch everyone up”
Me and A don’t talk often but when we did, they told me about how C was talking shit behind their back because B told A out of loyalty for them. It didn’t really sit right with me, but I kept quiet to not create drama for the sake of our trip and out of respect for them. I also want to note the shit talk wasn’t really shit talk just a negative comment. (ex: talking about how they were late) I told A that maybe C was just joking as it’s their humor? A understood but was stern that B was telling the truth since they told A no, C didn’t sound like they were joking but serious.
Eventually this puts A into thinking they can’t trust C, and continues to hold a grudge against C for everything. Expressing “how can B and C be best friends when A and B have been friends longer.” To me, that was never an issue, I understand how B feels towards me and that we aren’t as close as we used to be in HS. I’ve expressed this to A as well but they felt stern in their grudge against C because of the comment.
To sum it up, I told C about what B said to A and how B is often depicting C in a negative light to A since A has been holding a grudge against C since. Even when knowing both sides of story. C confronted A and B, B admits to talking about C behind their back and apologizes. A says it’s not their fault since B made the story that way but apologies for not communicating. C cuts off B as a friend and is distant towards A.
As for me, I told B about me telling C and they cut me off. I have no problem with it, as a friend to them I should’ve talked to them about it first before going to C. A on the other hand, I have no idea where I stand with them, although I’ve been friends with them I don’t think I want to maintain my friendship with them, it’s tiring being around them and I’m tired of defending myself and others when they are wishing negativity over people from the past. Is that bad?
I know I was in the wrong for telling C without talking to A first since they told me, but I’m also friends with C and I feel like they should know that their friends (A and B) feel a type of way about them and that they are spreading a false narrative. I told C because the guilt kept eating at me that I knew and also because some of the actions done by B towards C made me feel even more guilty. The action were B trying to seem better than C, comparing how many people C talked to that B has already talked too, etc. (when C confronted B they didn’t include this as it wasn’t a major deal breaker and it was all assumptions through their actions all lining up) I’ve apologized to both friend A and B too, but I feel that it doesn’t matter how long we’ve been friends, loyalty should be between all friendships. Am I in the wrong? (srry if there’s typos)