Why can’t I orgasm from sex?
Okay so this is embarassing for me to talk about I guess but it’s been really eating away at me and I’m not sure why. I 20F have been with my girlfriend 21F for almost a year now. We’ve had sexual encounters many times since we’ve started dating, be it fingering, oral, strap-on, even using toys on each other. We’ve done it all many times now, and no matter how hard we try, I can’t orgasm. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me.
It feels good, it’s not like I don’t enjoy the stimulation, but no matter how hard we try, I can’t quite get there. I think I’ve gotten close? But the weird part is I can’t quite tell. When I masturbate, I can tell when I’m close, I’ve never had a problem with that. I can make myself orgasm with no issues, and I can make her orgasm with no issues. It’s not her technique, because it feels good. But I feel like she ends up getting tired before I’m close. I feel so bad about the fact I haven’t been able to cum yet that part of me feels guilty after we have sex because I know it makes her sad that she hasn’t gotten me there yet. What’s weird too is that I can’t finish when I masturbate with her. Like I used the same vibrator I always use, that I never have a problem with finishing with, and she was there talking me through it. And I know I got close, but I couldn’t push myself over. It’s just so frustrating.
It feels like there’s something wrong with me and I’m so scared she’s going to lose interest in me because I haven’t had an orgasm with her yet. Part of me is considering faking one but that just feels so wrong and I don’t want to lie to her. Should I go to the doctor? Is this like.. a common thing? I’ve seen it with men who have ED or whatever but I’ve never heard it in a lesbian relationship and I just feel so out of place.