I don’t know what to do HELPP about my boy best friend
I’m not really sure how to explain this, but I’ll start from the beginning. I’ve known my boy best friend since Year 7 — let’s call him Apple. Back then, we weren’t very close; we just talked sometimes in form because we were in the same form throughout school.
In Year 10, I moved to catering because I didn’t like music, and my only friend in music had moved classes, so I switched. Apple was in catering too, and we started talking more, but we still weren’t super close compared to now. Later on, I found out he had a crush on me since Year 10.
After we left school, we became a lot closer, and I started seeing him as my best friend. We texted all the time, and I’d usually complain to him about things. I was always too scared to hang out with him alone, though, so I’d usually meet him with my girl best friend — who I’m not friends with anymore. I already knew he liked me because she asked him once and told me.
Now, in the present, I’m in my second year of college and turning 18 in July. My mum wants to move to Spain and asked both me and Apple if we want to come with her and spend my 18th birthday there. The thing is, he’s buying me gold jewellery that costs around £100 and getting me two other pieces of jewellery as well, and I honestly have no idea what to do.
My mum and grandma keep telling me that I’ll never find someone like him again because, honestly, he’s so patient with me. He never gets annoyed when I’m in a bad mood or acting bitchy, and I genuinely don’t know how I feel about him. I do think about him a lot, but at the same time, he isn’t really my usual type looks-wise. I feel so delusional because I read manhwa, use Character AI talking to my AI hoes, and watch anime, so my standards and expectations are probably all over the place because I’m such a simp.
But at the same time, I know I probably won’t find many guys like him in this generation. Whenever we hang out, he never lets me spend my own money (he says that guys should never let a girl pay) and is always buying me gifts. The last time we hung out, we went into an anime store and I saw this Rimuru plushie from That Time I Got Reincarnated as a Slime, and the thing is, it was like £24.
I genuinely don’t know what to do, so I came on here to hear you guys’ thoughts about this whole mess. My mum, grandma, stepdad, and even my mum and grandma’s friends keep telling me that I’ll never find someone like him in this generation. But the problem is, I don’t even understand my own feelings.
I see him as my best friend, but at the same time, I have no idea what to think. Sometimes I find him so annoying even though he hasn’t actually done anything wrong. I’m just really confused about everything right now, so please give me your thoughts.