u/Both_Leg991

i’ve been manifesting reconciliation with my sp and i wanted some advice/support because i feel like i’ve been seeing movement but also struggling mentally at times

for context, i set an intention a bit ago that yellow cars would be my sign that he’s coming back/reconnecting with me somehow. ever since then i see them CONSTANTLY now, like genuinely 4-10 a day when before i barely noticed them.

another weird thing is my best friend and my sp’s friend were dating, and i kept thinking that as long as they stayed together we would always indirectly hear about each other and it would keep the energy messy. i remember affirming that any interference/blockages between me and my manifestation would naturally be removed. then out of nowhere they started arguing over tiny things and abruptly ended things. now i’m wondering if i accidentally manifested that too?? i feel bad if i did.

my biggest struggle right now is the 3p situation and intrusive thoughts. whenever i think about her i try to redirect and affirm things like “hes in love with me not her” or i’ll just say that ‘it doesn’t matter he wants me’ but sometimes i still spiral mentally and compare a little bit for a second before correcting it.

another thing is one of the reasons he said our relationship struggled was because i still live with my parents and have stricter rules/lack of freedom compared to him. he felt limited by it and i think i internalized that as a blockage. communication problems also lead to my dad not favoring him. one time i remember even saying to myself ‘if he doesnt like it then he should find someone without restrictions’ and well lets just say i shouldve never said that.

i do realize that i created this situation by unintentionally manifesting another girl and him being hot/cold. how do i reverse this?

im mainly affirming self concept. things like:

‘i am a love magnet, everyone loves me’
‘i am a priority’
‘i always get what i want’
‘everything i want wants me more’

for him im affirming:
‘__ craves me every single day
’ no matter the circumstances he always chooses me’
‘ everyone can see that we belong together’
‘ our love is mutual and growing’

i also scripted but some things have changed so im wondering if i should rewrite it or if i should not do different techniques?

does anyone have advice on how to manifest:

circumstances no longer affecting the relationship
freedom/ease in the relationship
removal of limitations/blockages
staying in the state without reacting emotionally to the 3d?

i find it hard to think i have something when people around me keep asking me if i would take him back or remind me of the old story.

Hi!

Me and my ex broke things off about a week and a half ago. It did not end with closure and it was left very open-ended. However, i found out that he has now been seeing his ex.

I am no stranger to manifesting, around two years ago i manifested him back just after three weeks of complete no contact. When we broke up then, I would always get tarot card readings on tiktok that said ‘he regrets his decision’ and ‘hes coming back’ and i just brushed past them. Until i learned about what manifesting was and all the techniques that came with it.

I ended up scripting and wrote all about how he came back and said ‘i miss you’ which is nearly identical to what he said. In that same script i wrote the same color, make, and model of the car that i wanted which i ended up getting just months later. No previous talk about it, my dad just bought it for me as my first car. I also did the write his name three times and kiss it and put it under your pillow. When i did this it was a full moon and i just felt something in me that knew it would work. The next day, i woke up and was abnormally calm. Just a few days prior i was crying and throwing up over the situation. Then that same night he was back and we were back together for a whole 8 months after that.

Now, things are a little different. We’ve been separated for 12 days and no contact for 10. I know in my mind and in my heart he is coming back to me. He always does. I also know that i am a master manifester. I ‘manifested’ or came up with the idea that if i keep seeing yellow cars that means he is coming back to me. The literal next day i saw up to 10 yellow cars which is pretty rare for where i live. Also a pretty rare color in general.

I know that i am good at manifesting because i manifest little things like that all the time. I just dont really put too much thought into things and they happen just how i say they will. i also have dreams that come true in one way or another.

The problem I am having now is the 3d. I keep thinking about him with his ex and comparing our relationship to theirs. I also always hear about him because my best friend is dating his friend who he is pretty close with. So the circumstances are different this time. Before, I had absolutely no clue of what he was doing unless i watched his social media. I also never really talked about him with anyone because it was usually just me alone while we were broken up. Now, i hear about what hes doing and my friend keeps telling me to focus on myself and move on.

I love having support but how do i deal with people telling me things about him/what hes doing/ his ex and my friend telling me to move on and focus on myself?

How do i persist when the 3d is thrown at me almost 24/7?

I dont really feel sad anymore about the situation i do feel myself getting emotional sometimes but the thought thats always in my head is ‘he’s gonna come back’ or ‘he always comes back to me.’ but then sometimes a little voice says ‘but is he?’ I dont know if its detachment or if im avoiding the feelings and coping. is that the same?

I guess I am also doubting myself a little bit because last year, I tried to manifest a guy that i dated for 3 months back and it just did not work. I was persistent in the beginning (similar to how i am now) and then over time it just fizzled out and i didnt see any movement so i gave up completely. The only thing that really came out of it was that months later his friend asked my best friend ‘she wasnt gonna wait for him?’ but that was after i had gotten back with my ex. So i dont know.

i am also struggling with the pattern of the old story, i deserve better, but i want us back. I think self-concept work will definitely be beneficial in this scenario seeing as i am great at manifesting but i havent mastered how to keep what i manifest yet and i read that has to do with sc.

Any advice is appreciated
(except telling me to leave him alone)

i don’t really know what i’m looking for here, maybe just to get this out because my head is spinning. i have no one to really talk about this with because they all hate him for what has happened in the past.

me and my ex have a long history. we’ve known each other for years and were each others firsts. i basically taught him everything he knows about relationships, intimacy, all of that. we’ve gone through so many versions of each other, broken up and come back before, and this time i really thought it was different.

but recently i found out he left me for his ex. they dated for 2 years and she met basically his entire family. we had made plans to go visit his mom together this summer so i could meet her. he said we would get along so well. from what i know now, they broke up december 23rd. at 4am december 24th, he called me and we met up and started seeing each other again. looking back, that already feels insane. maybe my fault for not asking questions.

apparently while they were together, he would still reach out to me every december. i didn’t realize the full overlap until now.

fast forward to recently. almost two weeks ago on a thursday, he had a seizure. the day before that (wednesday), him and his ex were on the phone for two hours. then that saturday, there was a party at his house. his roommate’s girlfriend is close friends with his ex and invited her. his ex even asked him if it was okay if she came. he said yes.

i was at that party with him, and she showed up. he wasnt really with me at the party. maybe an hour consecutively out of the 5-6 hours i was at his house. he never told me about her, but i had done some digging and saw a picture of them from october 2025, so i assumed they had atleast broken up then. i knew she was at least someone in the picture, but not to the extent i know now.

while talking to me, he was telling me he took me for granted before, and that he wanted to do things right this time. a week or two before all of this happened, we even got into an argument and he got drunk and showed up at my house saying we needed to communicate and do things differently so we wouldn’t repeat the past.

after the party (saturday), him and his ex hung out monday/tuesday. then on wednesday we talked and he told me he hasn’t felt the same since his seizure, that he’s scared about his health and his future, and that he might need a break to figure himself out. we didn’t talk thursday, and then friday we had an hour long call where he told me he acts irrationally, doesn’t think through his decisions, and that it wasnt fair to me that he couldnt meet the expectations of a relationship that i had but minimized for him. he told me he was going to start therapy. he said he didnt want to break up but asked how long i would wait and that he didnt want me waiting in vain. ultimately after talking through things honestly (so i thought) we agreed on a three week break and then to come back and talk about the state of our relationship.

what i didn’t know at the time is that right after that call, he went to his ex’s house and hasn’t even gone back home since. it’s been days. so while i was sitting here thinking i was giving him space to “figure himself out,” he was already back with her.

i ended up sending a paragraph after finding this out (from a friend who is dating his friend who wasnt supposed to tell me) and told him i was disappointed and that i tried to be understanding and give him space but knowing everything i know now i felt like i AT LEAST deserved the respect of being told the truth directly. and i ended it with ‘i really hope you figure things out for yourself.’ the only response i got was ‘i do too.’

i know logically this is a pattern and i did the right thing by speaking up, but emotionally i feel so confused and honestly kind of used. like i was there in between something that never really ended.

how do you even process something like this and let go when you still love and are attached to a person?

I truly do love him with all my heart and i would’ve done anything for him. all i ever did was motivate him, support him, and encourage him to be better in every aspect of life. i was always there WHENEVER he needed me.

now that things are over, my mind automatically goes to “he’ll be back” because he always comes back to me and that “it wont last with them.” i dont want it to be over forever. i cant imagine not having him in my life let alone never speaking again. im also comparing our relationship to theirs. she has her own place where he stays and shes met his whole family. that was an issue in our relationship that i wouldnt sleep over at his place and that i had too many restrictions because i still live with my controlling dad. im sort of blaming myself for the downfall of our relationship and i hate myself for it.

heres our timeline if interested:

october-december 2022 talking

january-may 2023 dating

may 29 2023 break up

june 18 2023 talking again/situationship

december 2023 (hes with her?)

january 5th 2024 break things off again

december 17th 2024 talking again/situationship (he’s with her)

january 29th/february 2nd 2025 break things off again

december 24, 2025 talking again/ exclusive

april 24 break things off again

(sorry for the novel)

tldr: long history with my ex bf who recently said he needed a break after a seizure and feeling overwhelmed, but was already reconnecting with his ex the whole time and went back to her right after we agreed to take space. i walked away but i feel confused and hurt and dont know how to process it.