u/Born-Coast1906

Going through a lot yaar… need genuine advice from people who’ve gone through something similar, preferably in their 30s or older because I feel struggles hit differently then compared to your 20s.

My dad’s health isn’t good, I’m abroad but mentally I feel like I’m still in India all the time. Visa slot situation is messed up for almost 1.5 years now, work is getting affected badly, and my manager is unhappy because honestly I haven’t been able to focus properly.

I genuinely don’t know how to navigate this phase or even what to think anymore. Is life in your 30s this hard for everyone at some point? How do you keep functioning when multiple parts of life are falling apart together?

Would really appreciate hearing your experiences or how you handled difficult phases like this.

are you postponing everything just because you cannot get the slot till 1.5 years atleast( dec 2027). I mean how to overcome this ...

My father had a stroke 5 months ago, and 2 months ago he developed sepsis. Since then, his alertness has been very low. He is still alert enough to open his eyes and follow basic commands, but not alert enough to safely eat by mouth. That is why we are feeding him through a Ryle tube, because we are always scared of aspiration.

Even during swallowing therapy, he keeps dozing off and is unable to stay properly alert, and for oral feeding he needs to be much more awake and attentive.

Right now, whenever we do physical therapy for him, he keeps getting fevers very frequently, along with sore throat symptoms, as if he catches viral infections easily. Low-grade fever happens very often, because of which he has been on antibiotics many times. But we also cannot keep giving repeated antibiotic courses because that can disturb his gut bacteria and cause other problems.

In this situation, what should be done according to you? If we stop physical therapy, his hands and legs may stop improving because he had recovered quite a lot after the stroke, although he still cannot sit by himself. But when we try to do PT at home, he does not cooperate much. My mother says that PT is causing more harm than benefit, so what should we do now?

Hi,

I am stuck for one year, how to not visit family for one year. in a very bad mental space. how you guys are doing?

Country United states
Visa H1b

Some post gets locked without any further notice. May I know the reason? My earlier post got locked for comments..

want to go back to india desperately but being single F in my 30s, its difficult to live in India. I tried to adjust here but it gets extremely lonely, seems like earning dollars at the cost of life.