Me and my best friend have been friends for around 7-ish years. During which we've had arguments, usually over small things. But the last 2/3 years have been different. 3 years ago she was holding my bag and her phone in the same hand, when I took my bag off her, the phone dropped. She started to yell phrases like "You broke my phone!" "how could you?!" but I didn't feel responsible (and still don't) because she wasn't holding it properly and I never touched the phone. The next day she told everyone I smashed her phone on the ground and made everyone turn/no speak to me. I hated going in everyday and her brother would call me horrible things (understandable but he still does it). Towards the summer she said "Hey, let's be friends again" and I said yes because I was sick of being alone and I was (and still am) a people pleaser.
Last month I found out she was avoiding my calls and was talking shit about me to another friend of ours who I didn't really like. I confronted her and she started crying and spam calling me when I said I wanted space. She then told people I've been bullying her for months and wanted ME to apologise. I was told I needed to but I still stand that I didn't need to to because nobody would speak to me.
And just recently, I found out she's made a group chat with the other people from the main TADC group chat to watch TADC episode 9 without me while promising she'd go with me. I haven't confronted her because it'll have the same outcome from the other but I've had enough. She also dictated what games we play by going silent on call or completely ignoring me.
I really want to confront her but I wasn't sure if I was in the wrong or the best way to do so without her turning the group on me again.
Is my best friend toxic or am I overreacting?