u/BoBowski2031

I'm sorry for all the trauma about to be dumped on you😅. I'm going to try and keep this short and simple to understand, please ask me any questions if things need clarification.

I just want as many opinions as possible, preferably from addicts themselves or people that suffer from extreme mental illnesses.

To my dad and brother, my sister if it's read by content creators, or anyone else who may recognize the scenario, I'm sorry for posting this publicly. You guys are biased and my friends are tired of hearing of the same issues over and over again.

TW; abuse, animal harm/death, SA, long term family drama.

TLDR; my drug addicted mom has been going insane. It's a mixture of political, religious, and drug/alcohol induced psychosis imo (I live 9 hours away, I'm mostly going off of phone calls I've had with my 10y/o sister). My mom killed our childhood pet last night. Our cat was found in a cage, a bloody face and soaked with water. Neighbors say they saw her strangling it, shoving a water hose down its throat, and beating it. Instead of going back to jail, she's now in a mental hospital being restrained and about to be involuntarily committed for an unknown amount of time (they said "until she can communicate without being angry"). I don't know if she's redeemable. I could barely forgive her (& forgive is in very loose terms here, to me it means giving another chance to be better) for what she's done to me and my siblings, and now killing a cat? Our childhood cat? The night she killed the cat she was screaming at my step dad to bring my sister back home. I have a gut feeling that would've been my sister, not a cat killed if he didn't get my sister out when he did.

This is more info to help truly determine opinions, if it's even needed. When do you give up trying to help someone? Is there any hope? There's so much more than what's written here, this is just what's happening now and the direct causations of it imo.

A little over a month ago, I heard my mom was speaking to herself, she was drinking heavily and on unknown drugs (waiting for a medical report to see if anything was in her system, she has been an alcoholic for decades now, got sober multiple times and went right back to it. This has been the worst relapse). My mom was arrested over a week ago for being a public nuisance, she broke into her neighbors houses, flashing people, the works. So my step dad took my sister in. Someone bailed her out, we don't know who, and she went on a rampage. Immediately drinking, went to her trailer and disconnected the cameras. Started throwing and breaking EVERYTHING, throwing it in the front yard, including stuff of my 10 year old sister. She would call my step dad and scream to bring my sister back to her, multiple times throughout the few days she was released, but he refused.

My mom has been an addict and struggling for my whole life (I'm 24, so at least 15 years). Her brother died when I was around 7 and she was 25-26, and that's when the majority of the real problems started popping up.

Her mom hated her. My nana would tell my mom it should've been her that died. My nana would hit her kids and allow them to be hit by her husband, who she's only still married to for her visa papers even though he would also hit and assault my nana.

At 16, after years of pleading with my mom to let me go live with my dad, years of caring for my siblings like they're my own kids, years of witnessing alcohol/drug abuse that led to extreme physical abuse on my closest brother, who is only 3 years younger than me. I finally was free to go live with my dad, he never took me to therapy even after I begged him to let me see one but in his words "they're just going to medicate you", I still haven't been but that's now because of insurance. My dad has his own issues, including a multitude of what he's done to my mom, or at least the accusations thrown onto him by my mom.

Growing up my mom told me my dad assaulted her. She would say he was abusive and hit her, wouldn't let her have friends or go out without him knowing. I know that is partially true, but I also know my mom is a perpetual liar and (now at this moment in time, not back then) is completely insane. I feel guilty for moving out and living with my dad, especially if the assault claim is true. I know that is definitely a reason for a spiral, but I also couldn't stay in that house any longer.

Present day, I live 9 hours away from my home state, in my dad's state, and my closest brother moved down with me when he turned 19 (he was forced to join the military at 18 by my nana, he decided he really didn't want to be in it after he had already graduated and was a full on marine. He ended up harming himself in order to get out of service since he felt there was no other option). I have a job of 6 years, it's not what I want my career to be but it works out for now, and he has a steady job now. Not to derail too much, but he was living in the living room of my one bedroom apartment since December (this month, April, is when we got our new apartment) and I would drive him to both of his jobs daily since his car was a complete dumper. That's not super important to the story, I just wanted to share an example of how close we are, and that's how I feel about my smallest sister, who's 10 years old right now.

My sister lives with my mom. CPS has gotten involved multiple times. She has lived in foster homes, my great aunt (another person my mom likely crashed out about, when my mom was 17 my great aunts husband tried to sleep with my mom. It scarred her, and no one believed her when she told people, specifically my nana. My mom never told my great aunt until last year, 24-25 years later. It's now causing my aunt to get divorced from him, and my aunt isn't comfortable having my sister live there anymore, but only because she doesn't want her husband around my sister and they have to live together to stay afloat monetarily). After a year in the system, the courts decided my mom was fit to raise my sister again, that was 9 months ago. Throughout those 9 months my sister would call me and I would hear my mom screaming in the background. I asked my sister what that was about, she said mom was "screaming at the news and the TV", my mom claims she's at war with Donald Trump, my mom brings God and Jesus up with every sentence, and rambles about random things that just don't make any sense (example, and this was said VERY fast so read it quickly to get an idea of how it was said, "and my friend, she's white btw, acts black and she says (jumbled words) and i love her though, Jesus tells us to love everyone even a white woman that pretends she's black and says she black but she's my sister and....(trails off)"). My sister would call me at 3am sometimes (I'm nightshift, she knows thats when I'm awake and will stay up to talk to me) and I still hear Mom screaming and rambling in the background, I don't think she was sleeping. They lived in a trailer, so very small and thin walls. The trailer was also a complete disaster when my sister was living there.

Before she got arrested the first time (a little over a week ago), my brother (again, states away from her) called her and spoke to her for hours. He got her to say she will go to rehab and a mental health facility. He called the places and got her insurance worked out. All she had to do was show up. My step dad picked her up and started driving her there, and 10 mins away from the facility she started freaking out and jumped out of the car. She never went, ended up going to jail which is when my step dad took my sister in, and then the TLDR happened. I don't know what to do, if anything. My sister is happy with my step dad, and he's thankfully a great person, and I've told him if he ever needs a break both myself and my aunt is willing to take her in. I'm just at a loss of how to feel about my mom, if there's anything I even can do. Me and her have been low contact for a while now, it was my choice and I'm sure she missed having her kids around. This whole situation breaks my heart and I don't know if there was anything I could've done to prevent it, if there's anything I can do now. She genuinely isn't the same person she used to be and I don't think she ever will be again.