My situation is pretty complicated. I’ve been friends with this guy for over four years. He recently broke up with his girlfriend because she was still in contact with her ex. Around the same time, I also ended things with my boyfriend after finding out he cheated on me with multiple people, which really hurt.
The thing is, no one else knows that my friend and his girlfriend broke up, our friend group still thinks they’re together. People do know about my breakup, though. Recently, my friend and I started talking about everything we were going through, and in that moment when we were both not in the best headspace, we decided to become friends with benefits.
We’ve hooked up a few times. He’s been kind and attentive, like taking care of me afterward, getting food, paying for things, just generally acting like a good friend. We also texted every day because we share the same humors, we joke around and stuff about life or work. But suddenly, he stopped responding, and it’s been almost 24 hours, even though I can see he’s active on Steam.
There’s another important detail: even though he broke up with his ex, they share pets, and he still goes to her house to take care of the dogs when she works overnight. Sometimes he even stays the night and leaves when she gets back in the morning. I told him from the beginning that his situation was complicated, and if he ever got back with her, he needed to let me know because I don’t want to be involved in someone else’s relationship or be part of any cheating.
Yesterday, he stayed at her place longer than usual, overnight and then until around 6 PM the next day. He sent me a message in the morning saying he had to do something at her house but didn’t explain. After that, nothing. No texts at all once he got home.
Now I’m just confused. Did he sleep with her at the place? I want to ask him directly if he’s back with her because if he is, I’m done with this situation. But at the same time, since he hasn’t reached out, I don’t want to come off as desperate or like I’m chasing him. The whole situation just feels really weird. I know fwbs can have multiple sex partners but, in this case, if he gets back with his ex (I also know the ex) then it would be really complicated if she found out I slept with “her man.”
I can’t really tell my friends about my story because no one knows they broke up, I am the only one so yeah just want to share it here.