I’m having a falling out with my friend group right now and i feel like i’m going insane because of it. (my friends are Connor, Sam and Luna for privacy purposes). i was going to post this in the “am i the a hole” group but feel as if its too popular and i’m worried one of them will see it and realize who i am from how specific i have to be with this.
for context, Luna and i were already in a falling out before this and if i have to explain why in the comments i will.
long story short, i got on one of my social media texting apps and seen that Sam had unadded me for reasons unknown. i never asked. we were never really close in the first place, but that still didn’t warrant me being unadded especially when we all collectively talk every day in some way and were on good terms. what i did know was that Luna and Sam were in a voice call the night before i found out i was unadded. this is the part where you guys might think i’m crazy, because our mutual friend Connor thinks i am.
Luna gets passive aggressive and lowkey upset if i hang out with other people if i haven’t yet reached out to them first. that has been proven in our friendship quite a few times. the night all of this happened, i was on a game with some other people. i noticed Luna had got on the same game for— i kid you not— two seconds before getting right back off. which in the past has resulted in me getting a passive aggressive text or them being upset.
again, this is the part where i might lose you. am i crazy to assume that Luna got on the game, seen that i was on with someone else, got upset and ranted about it to Sam while in their call, which resulted in me getting unadded? am i crazy for even coming to that conclusion? it could all be a huge coincidence, i am well aware, but in the end i was still unadded by Sam.
either way, i already did the damage and left our group chat, blocking both of them (harsh, ik) because its been a back and forth/ off and on thing with me and Luna for a while and i honestly couldn’t handle it anymore. i recently had someone very close to me pass away and that alone has made my mental health plummet as of late. i genuinely can’t handle trying to fix my broken friendship with Luna, now worry about what the heck i did wrong for Sam to unadd me all while grieving and fighting depression.
Connor was the only friend out of the group i kept but he’s making it clear he’s on their side. he said that i should apologize for jumping to conclusions (although i have yet to be told i was wrong, still i don’t entirely disagree) and that maybe i just can’t handle having friends. which is funny because this is the first time ive had this many issues with a friend/ group before. but that comment really stuck with me.
so am i in the wrong? even if my assumption was a reach did i do the wrong thing?