Open to sharing ideas on life and also advice 😁
Hey everyone, hope you're all doing well.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about relationships, connection, and life in general, and I wanted to hear some different perspectives. I’m a 23-year-old guy, and I’ve realized I’m really not interested in casual hookups or meaningless sex. I value deep connection much more than that. At the same time, I sometimes worry that by not living that kind of lifestyle, I’ll lack the experience that a lot of women expect in relationships or in the bedroom. I’m not a virgin or anything, but I’ve always been careful about who I give my energy to.
I know “energy” can sound strange to some people, but I genuinely believe that constantly engaging in meaningless connections can affect you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I try to keep my energy safe and authentic.
I’m also someone who genuinely loves the simple things in life. Nature, gardening, plants, science, learning, building a peaceful little life for myself — those things honestly fulfill me deeply. Sometimes I think I could stay single forever, focus on my passions, create my own little paradise, and still live a very meaningful and happy life. But another part of me thinks I’d probably still crave a true partner eventually.
What confuses me is that life itself already feels so full of beauty, meaning, and interesting experiences that I don’t feel incomplete without a relationship. At the same time, I’ve seen so many unhealthy relationships around me that partnership almost seems more chaotic than peaceful these days. I know healthy relationships absolutely exist, but they feel rare sometimes, especially in a world dominated by social media, phones, and surface-level interaction. It feels like genuine human connection has changed a lot.
I’d say I’m a pretty spiritual person as well. I feel deeply connected to nature, people, animals, and energy in general. I tend to pick up on people’s energy very quickly, and honestly I think that sensitivity shapes how I view relationships and life.
Not really sure what the point of this post is — maybe just a bit of a rant or reflection — but I’d genuinely like to hear other people’s perspectives on this. Thanks for reading.