Worried about my daughter
My daughter is in the early stages of puberty, maybe started 6-8 months ago. She's getting more emotional, mature, withdrawn.
This morning I decided to check in on her iPad to see what she was talking about with her friends, that kind of thing.
I found a lot of very heartbreaking memes, video clips, etc. about being depressed, about feeling broken, sad, unloved, etc. Nothing directly expressing suicidal thoughts, but this is very dark, absolutely crushing.
A lot of this comes from her relationship with my spouse, who is a very strict parent, and has anger management issues. My daughter hates to be yelled at, and unfortunately that happens a lot.
Their relationship is very broken, and I'm trying to work with my spouse to correct their behavior and find a way to reconcile. My spouse has finally started to understand the gravity of their actions and seems to be ready to take this seriously.
I am not blameless. I can be hard on her for certain things, but I don't yell, and I generally am trying to help her do better (in sports for instance which is her passion). Our relationship is much better, but it's not as tight as it used to be, and I had equated that with her just going through puberty type feelings and wanting some autonomy.
Two questions:
Do we confront her directly about the material she's got on her computer (I am thinking that's a bad idea but maybe I'm wrong).
Any suggestions on how to thaw a very frozen, broken relationship so that we can start to rebuild?
Thank you all