>YA LGBTQ contemporary novel with an AFAB protagonist who begins identifying as nonbinary and prefers the name Jay (possibly short for Jennifer/Jenny), while the mother insists on using the birth name. Jay’s family moves to a new city. The mother discourages/forbids Jay from skateboarding because she’s worried it encourages Jay’s gender nonconformity or masculine behavior, and at one point she may even throw away or confiscate Jay’s skateboard. After the move, Jay’s brother secretly gives the skateboard back to them. Because of the mother’s rules, Jay secretly skates very early in the morning or late at night.
Jay attends a strict all-girls school with skirts/uniforms and feels deeply uncomfortable with the feminine expectations there. Jay has a close relationship with their brother, who is very supportive.
Jay develops feelings for both:
- a girl from the new school (who eventually becomes Jay’s girlfriend by the end), and
- a very attractive boy from the skateboarding scene who attends Jay’s brother’s school.
There’s also:
- a birthday party for Jay at their house,
- a sleepover at the girl’s house,
- and ongoing conflict with the mother over gender expression/name.
The book was probably published in the late 2010s or early 2020s. The cover was plain/basic and featured a teenager with a skateboard. The title referenced skateboarding somehow (possibly words like kickflip, grind, ollie, drop-in, etc.).
I loved that book. It was so well written and incredibly funny. Looking for the exact title and author.