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Me19 M and she 20 F have been in relationship since last to 2 years. We studied in the same school in our 12th and I proposed to her after our 12th farewell on WhatsApp. Everything was good and she was very sweet to me. It was my first time being in a genuine relationship and it was also her first time. She is this padpi type girl and I thought she was very innocent. Fast forward 2 years she is not the same person she used to be. She doesn't value any of my efforts. During her 20th birthday she was angry with me for not getting anything. I genuinely didn't have any money that time and at last moment I borrowed money from my friends and bought her chocolate. Still she wasn't happy. During our 2 year relationship I did many things for her. I even traveled with her from Kasaragod to Kottayam 3 times just to see her. We didn't sit next to each other since her uncle was there. Her uncle doesn't know about me ofcourse and she doesn't even acknowledge the fact that it must be tiring for me returning back on general. I didn't even say anything about it. Actually I told I got seat even though I got seat when I reached kozhikode also money is spent to travel that much. She thinks I'm kanji type and don't spend hence don't love her. The thing is I don't have money. I even bought her a necklace which costed 2k and during our recent meetups i took care of the expense since now I'm earning a bit money doing part time work. But she always blames me and always make me cry. I know I'm not the perfect person but I feel worthless rn. Because she is very attractive I forget everything and keep going back to her. But lately I'm tired of all this and don't know what to do. Sorry for the long writing

I have never gifted her anything. I'm willing to spend about 500rs. I only have that much. Nalle gift ideas suggest cheyo

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This sounds dramatic until it happens to you.

I used TikTok constantly for the last couple years. Not even in a “creator grind” way. Just normal scrolling. An hour here, 20 minutes there, before sleep, while eating, whenever my brain got quiet.

And after a while I noticed something weird.

I'd be talking to friends and repeating phrases I didn't even realize I picked up from TikTok.

Not just trends. Actual opinions.

The way I talked about dating.

Productivity.

Relationships.

Politics.

Music.

Everything started sounding like something I'd already heard before.

At first I thought that was normal. Like I was just “in the loop.”

But then I deleted the app for two weeks because I was getting distracted too much.

And the silence was uncomfortable.

I realized how much of my day was just consuming other people's reactions to life instead of actually experiencing my own thoughts about it.

Even worse , I noticed how fast TikTok trains people to flatten every opinion into the same tone.

Everyone becomes hyper self aware.

Everyone talks like they're narrating a video essay.

Everyone has a “take.”

Everyone secretly wants to sound like the smartest person in the comments.

When I came back to the app after the break, it felt obvious in a way I couldn't unsee anymore.

Same cadence.

Same humor.

Same recycled therapy language.

Same fake confidence.

The algorithm doesn't just show you content.

After enough time it starts shaping how you think, what you notice, and even how you talk to other people.

And the scary part is most of us think we're immune to it while it's happening.

I still use TikTok sometimes. I'm not pretending I'm above it.

But now when I catch myself repeating something I saw online, I stop and ask myself one question:

“Did I actually think this myself?”

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I took a short break from posting on Instagram for around two weeks, and after coming back my reach felt noticeably worse. Before the break, engagement was pretty stable, but now even followers seem less active on my posts. It’s making me wonder if stepping away for a bit hurts accounts more than people admit. Have any of you recovered normal reach after taking a break from Instagram, or does the algorithm take a long time to trust active creators again?

It feels like TikTok now rewards content that moves extremely fast every second, and anything slower instantly loses people. Even videos with good storytelling or useful information struggle if they don’t throw something attention grabbing at viewers immediately. Creators almost seem forced to cut pauses, speed up edits, and constantly add stimulation just to survive in the feed. Makes me wonder if the platform has changed audience behavior so much that slower paced content simply can’t compete anymore.