u/Betaminer69

I come home from work. J., a family friend, has cooked. I've brought my wife a present: a fridge magnet.

When we're about to eat, she starts arguing loudly with imaginary people on her phone. It becomes uncomfortable to sit next to her and "eat in peace." I ask her to stop, to which she replies that I can eat somewhere else. I go upstairs and eat there in peace. After five minutes, J. comes upstairs, also finding my wife too loud. When I'm finished, I go back into the living room, sit down next to her, and play on my phone while she continues arguing with her imaginary conversation partners. She didnt eat anything.

At some point, her volume bothers me, and I deliberately turn on a YouTube video at full volume. I want to counter it, to show her how loud she is. She immediately raises her voice. I tell her that if it's too loud for her, she can go somewhere else, as she had told me earlier. She becomes aggressive, screams at me, demands that I turn it off, I refuse, she throws her phone in my face from about 50 cm away, threatens me with her long fingernail right in front of my face, kicks me, tries to take off my wedding ring while scratching me with her fingernails, hits me with her slipper and kicks me again... I fend it all off, remain passive, try to keep her at a distance, and start shouting loudly for help, first in English, then in my mothertongue, to get somebodies attention, and because I don't know what else to do, she doesn't stop. J. comes downstairs shortly after and pulls her away from me. In the meantime, I start recording video and informing the children via WhatsApp.

She is sitting on the other side, still insulting me, mostly in her mothertongue, which I can barely understand. She goes upstairs. An hour later, she comes downstairs and throws her internet-free phone on the floor in my direction.

My fear is that she'll surprise me while I'm sleeping, so I'm planning to lock the door between us.

I wrote a "concern message" to her doctor, about this situation, tomorrow I will go to the police and file a case, to get this situation in the logs.

She had a psychosis in 2015, first she got medicated but rejected the medicine later, because she got unpleasantly "fat" and because she couldnt sleep properly anymore. Her diagnosis is paranoid schizophrenia, another diagnosis says PTSD.

I am so sorry how it goes with her, and now I feel guilty

Edit: wording

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