I’m a feminine afab nonbinary person and tbqh I’m very tired of people telling me I’m trans when I simply am not. I present as a woman (albeit a bit non-traditional, alt style), I’m not really interested in androgyny.
I understand people consider nonbinary to be under the trans umbrella, but personally….i view it as its own thing. There certainly are trans nb people, but that’s not me. It’s frustrating trying to come to a queer community and explaining “no, I’m not trans” and they tell me “oh but you are because of the trans umbrella!”
The last thing I expect from fellow queers is to tell me how I identify instead of just listening to what I’m telling them. It’s not very welcoming and doesn’t feel very accepting, so I largely do not participate in queer or nonbinary spaces bc of that. Not everyone fits into what are essentially just made up categories or boxes.