u/Benzito2342

My wife and I have had our ups and downs. We've been married for almost 6 years. My step kids are 16 and 18, with one going off to college. Honestly, the kids aren't too bad. My wife and I do go rounds about "chores" or "responsibilities", because she didn't grow up with chores. I did get her on board with unloading the dish washer, so we have that. My problem is I feel like my wife and I have drifted apart. We aren't intimate. We might have sex once a quarter because the kids are always home. I can count on one hand how many times my wife and I have been out in 6 years. I tried explaining to her about how we are a "foundation" and how we need to be good, but it goes back to what it was not long after our conversation. If we fight, she doesn't wear her rings for a few days which I think is childish. I just feel like I'm a financial provider at this point. I'm reverting back to someone I was 10 years ago where I kept everything bottled up and then would explode. My wife is a good woman and amazing mom, but I feel like she dismisses us a lot and focuses all her time and energy on the kids. I know I'm near the end, but I'm afraid the kids will come back from college and we are in the predicament I am now. I almost fear it will be worse because the kids went away. She said we can't go out to eat because she feels guilty if we are out and the kids are home. How can I be sure this feeling won't carry over when these kids return from college? My gut tells me it will get worse.