My mother in law keeps asking us for drug money (maybe?) What do I do...?
tldr: Husband's mom has a history of lying, stealing from her son and neglecting him. But asks for a suspicious amount of money often. What to do?
For context, my husband (M19)'s mom (F36) has had a rough childhood, pregnant at 17, dropped out of nursing school, and soon before/after lost her mom, which got her deep into drugs.
My husband tells me stories about all sorts of horrible things she'd done to him when he was younger. One of the most consistent ones is that she often takes his stuff and sells it for drugs. Specifically, she once got into playing Yu-Gi-Oh cards with him one time (she NEVER is interested in whatever he's playing cuz she's always sleepy and doses of maybe from the drugs), and started expressing interests mostly in the cards he said was worth alot (he had a full set of exodia). After asking him all the details, she told the whole set to the pawn shop and sell it.
She also has displayed profound disregard for her son's well-being and life, with an example being her walking for miles and miles just to buy drugs, and since my husband (was 5-6 at that time) was scared of being away from her, he followed her the whole way, which gave him calluses on his feet that still persist today. And another being her refusal to pay for his high school, which led him to miss out his entire 4 years of high school.
All of this was before I got into a relationship with him, and since I have, she'd only been asking us for money for utilities (always around a $70 amount, and ALWAYS cash). And since that's been the only REAL exposure I've had with her, I've trusted that it's for what she says for the first couple times. A big thing she always does however when she asks for money is that "she'll pay it back" which has only EVER occured one time throughout the 50+ times she's asked us. Recently, she's asked us the same thing ~$75, 60 for electricity, and 10 to change the DMV liscence from her bf's to her's so she can dump his worthless ass. I decide to help her out (since we're both living in her house rent free) if only not for one thing that stood out to me. She's once again insisting on cash. I told her that I can only come with her to pay with my credit card since my parents pay my credit card (that's a lie but I want to be there at the DMV and utilities place to know the money would go to where she said it was), and that I cant give her cash since my debit card is at a 0 rn. Even so, she insists that I go somewhere to buy something to get cash back for her to pay it herself, saying she's already had her utilities on one card and is not tryna incur a fee for using another card.
I feel really bad not helping since we're legally both adults and is not consistently contributing to her enough; it’s really the main reason why we agree to give it to her. But her history and behavior doesn't give us alot to have faith in. It’s just so hard to tell the lie from the truth (if there are any at all)
Sorry for the sloppy grammar, and thanks you reading