close to 4 years in the role. offered a new opp in Y2, been at new role for 2 years. had good appraisals and was expected to be promoted, but was not. currently been tasked with a high visibility project that signals intention for promotion. however have been putting long hours at work since last year, management have gone thru changes, there’s a few reporting lines and generally team feels overworked (the good ones get more).
personally don’t have a high self esteem now and feeling extra down when kena from bosses. middle management not strong either and we also know how bad finding a new job is now. so feel very trapped, no life but eat work and pretend w colleagues it’s ok. internally a bit numb, sad and see there’s no end. thinking about this makes me feel trapped, sad. need to mentally chiong for another year to attempt at promotion but currently overworked, underappreciated and people have been doing better than me without trying.
personally perhaps I need to be smarter at doing work, interfacing with bosses but am honestly tired, don’t see my strengths anymore cuz everyone is better and when I end work, I doom scroll so bad to escape the reality. My only respite is the weekends, and even then “work is coming” pops up so often in my mind. I technically have some buffer to quit if I wanted but family worries and financial support is poor, so rather not.
genuine advice only. if u tell me at least i have a job / everywhere also sucks type of advice, it does not help. thanks