Good day everyone.
I'm wondering what to do with Mom's friends. She had 6 who she kept in touch with just before going into the ALF and memory care and now nursing home. There is one of the 6 that helped her for a few years prior to the ALF (let's call her Alice).
I'm Mom's POA, have a full-time job, special needs adult child. All to say I'm very busy. All 6 friends either send cards, call, text, email Facebook message me at various intervals. I try to respond in a timely manner but it's a lot.
Alice, was not very helpful to me personally when Mom moved to the ALF. She caused a bit of unnecessary grief. I've known her all my life and our relationship deteriorated.
Alice texted me a month ago asking how Mom was. At the time Mom was sick and my sister (Healthcare surrogate) had the most contact with the staff at the facility. I told her it would be better to contact my sister for updates.
Alice texted me again yesterday asking how Mom was and requested that I provide her with monthly updates on Mom! She had tried to call the facility but they didn't have her on the list of Authorized callers.
I asked if she had ever contacted my sister and that I would be sure to add her to the list of authorized callers. (I didn't know there was even a list until Alice told me.) She replied with a nasty message to "Nevermimd. I'll call your sister."
Last time I visited Mom I asked if she wanted to call any friends or my sister while I was there. She said no. I don't think she has the conversation skills any longer. Or maybe doesn't remember people.
I'm irked that this particular person who has made life difficult is requesting monthly updates. Mind you the updates are normally similar. Mom still has dementia, and she is contemt/agitated/sick/healthy. Not much else to report.
I realize that all of Mom's friends are old themselves and miss her, but I don't have hours each month to talk to them and give updates. Obviously if Mom had a serious decline I'd let them know.
Has anyone else faced this predicament? What did you do?
This is really bugging me and I could use some advice.
Thanks!