My friend is destroying her life
I want to be there for her but I don’t know what else I can do. She started having a manic episode maybe two months ago and has managed to lose ALL of her friends and destroy her entire life.
She was doing so well and within two months she lost every single one of her friends. She lost her jobs and go new ones and lost them again within a week. And she hasn’t been paying rent and I think she’s about to go homeless. She lies about literally everything, but I know everyone in her life so I found out through them that she was fired because both her bosses called me and told me. I found out she was getting evicted because her neighbor called me. She lied to her family that she was on her meds and she hasn’t been, and she’s done some terrible things to them too and now she’s lost them too. She’s sleeping around a lot as well.
She has said and done some horrible and hurtful things to me, but I understand that she’s not fully understanding the consequences of her actions and I’m not taking it to heart. And it’s nothing compared to the insane things she’s done to her other friends. And after 10 years of wonderful friendship that she gave me, I can take this.
Before this nobody in her life besides myself knew she had bipolar and now she’s been banned from so many places for causing scenes, she’s getting several restraining orders against her, I know the police have been called on her many times too. I helped call them once because she was doing something terrible to one of her friends and I had to intervene.
I’ve known her longer than anyone else in her life, and it’s devastating spending any time with her. I love her so much but it’s like I’m seeing someone else walk around wearing my friend’s face. I’m giving as much as I can without hurting myself, but even seeing her is painful. It’s like my friend died. And I can’t cut her off because she really doesn’t have anyone. Even if she call me fat or ugly, I know that it’s just pain and confusion.
She doesn’t seem to understand the consequences of any of her actions at all. The friends that she hurt, she doesn’t understand how she was in the wrong and was furious when I helped them. She genuinely can’t comprehend where she went wrong and is practically in denial about everything that’s happening. My sister has bipolar disorder, but I’ve never seen someone progress this fast and so far down. I want to be her friend, I don’t want her to be alone when she comes out of this. But I’m not sure there’s anything I can do. Is there any advice or anything I can use to help this situation?