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Personal Reflection on Marriage and Education

Soo, I am now 17 years old from India, Maharashtra, from mostly town area, not much like city or rural, in the middle of it. I am preparing for NEET 2027. I know I am going to crack NEET because I am getting marks around 700, so I am sure to have an MBBS seat. But the problem came from here: my father kept telling me that they will start finding a boy for marriage in the first year of MBBS and get married by the second year. I will be around only 19 years old. But the thing is, I don’t want to get married at this young age. At least let me complete my MBBS first, then I will get married to whoever I want. I have seen many women having amazing careers ahead, but when they get married, their new family won’t allow them to study any further by saying, “You don’t have to; we have enough money.” I don’t want to be in that situation.

It's not like I don’t want to get married in life and stay single forever; it’s not like that. I want to get married also, but at this young age, I don’t think so. They are old-minded people, and they are very old by age also. I don’t have a brother, and I am the oldest one, so it’s like they want to marry me off first quickly compared to her. I don’t know what to do. I am not even feeling like studying anymore. Like, what’s the point of studying if everything revolves around marriage? They say if your age increases, boys will not want to marry old women or those more educated than them.

Every time I sit down to study, it comes to mind. I don’t know what to do. Should I run away from home to escape it? I want to run away, but not from India. I want to go to some other country; any decent country is fine. I don’t know what to do. Please give any advice to me.

I am very disturbed and confused overthinking everything

Soo, I am now 17 years old from India, Maharashtra, from mostly town area, not much like city or rural, in the middle of it. I am preparing for NEET 2027. I know I am going to crack NEET because I am getting marks around 700, so I am sure to have an MBBS seat. But the problem came from here: my father kept telling me that they will start finding a boy for marriage in the first year of MBBS and get married by the second year. I will be around only 19 years old. But the thing is, I don’t want to get married at this young age. At least let me complete my MBBS first, then I will get married to whoever I want. I have seen many women having amazing careers ahead, but when they get married, their new family won’t allow them to study any further by saying, “You don’t have to; we have enough money.” I don’t want to be in that situation.

It's not like I don’t want to get married in life and stay single forever; it’s not like that. I want to get married also, but at this young age, I don’t think so. They are old-minded people, and they are very old by age also. I don’t have a brother, and I am the oldest one, so it’s like they want to marry me off first quickly compared to her. I don’t know what to do. I am not even feeling like studying anymore. Like, what’s the point of studying if everything revolves around marriage? They say if your age increases, boys will not want to marry old women or those more educated than them.

Every time I sit down to study, it comes to mind. I don’t know what to do. Should I run away from home to escape it? I want to run away, but not from India. I want to go to some other country; any decent country is fine. I don’t know what to do. Please give any advice to me.

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Soo i am now 17 year old from india maharashtra from mostly town aera not much like city or rural in middle of it preparing for neet 2027 i now i am gonna crack neet cause i am getting mark around 700 soo i sure to have mbbs seat but problem came from here my Father kept telling me that they will started finding boy for a marriage at 1st year mbbs and get married until 2nd year i will around only 19 year old but thing is i dont wanna get married at this young age aleast let complete my mbbbs first then i will get married whoever i want cause i have seen many women having amazing carrier ahead get married their new family wont allowed them to study any further by saying you dont have to we have enough money i don't want be in that situation its not like i don't want to get married in life and stay single forever its not like that i want yo get married also but this young age i don't thing soo they old minded people + they are very old by age also and i dont have an brother and i am oldest one so its like they want marry me first fastly compare to her i don't know what to do, i am not even feel like studying anymore , like what the point of studying if everything revolue around marriage they if your age will increase boy will not to get married old women or more educated than them everytime i sat for studying t came in mind i dont know what to do should i runaway from home to escape it i want to runway but not india i want o go somewhere else country any decent country is fine soemtime susideal thought came in mind i dont what do please give any advice to me