It feels like the new generation of guys hold such double standards around the topic of body count.
In an ex partner he held the view that a woman’s body count is not the same as a man’s. He reasoned this by saying it’s routed in history - i.e A king can have multiple wives, men had power over their lineage etc. To which I had challenged that he held traditional / misogynistic views , and society is changing in the current world - this doesn’t mean what was believed X amount of years ago should be believed today.
Though he began to say how women have more choices in partners - therefore it means the woman chose to sleep with X amount of men. And a man doesn’t have as many choices therefore he’s not choosing to add to his body count? (I can’t remember his exact argument here).
I vividly remember this guy telling me he didn’t become official with his last partner because her body count was 8. His was 12. His was higher. (I don’t care for body count for either gender, but I could not understand him being so hell bent on this, despite his being higher than her body count, but hers was too high, therefore he could not date her.)
It annoys me that the view is “man sleeping with lots of women = okay, understandable, sometimes impressive” and “woman sleeping with lots of men = questionable because she “chose” it”.
Rant over but I’d love to understand this deep rooted way of thinking. Ps I know not all guys think like this, I just find the psychology interesting behind it - is it insecurity? Is it deep rooted misogyny? Is it taught with the upcoming / older red pill ideologies?