I don't know how to keep handling my mother anymore.
My mother has always been a difficult person. She's not affectionate or loving. She can be outright mean or even cruel. She's stubborn.
Since her stroke, she is still all those things but with the added twist of never being wrong. Any time she does something that gets messed up because of her stroke (trying to do things she used to be able to do), she absolutely takes it personally like she's being attacked for being "wrong."
During these times, I am completely aware she's only "messed up" something (for lack of a better expression) *because* she had a stroke. There is no blame or even comments...but she immediately feels attacked in her own mind without anyone saying anything.
...and that makes her get even meaner than she is on a good day.
She also calls me a liar constantly. She will do something and not remember - like throwing away the charger for a new drill. I know this is something I didn't do, and I know she only did it because she had a stroke. She will, however, accuse me of gaslighting her that she did it.
Constant accusations of gaslighting.
I don't know what to do or how to handle this when she has never been someone loving that ever cared for or about me.
How do you handle a stroke survivor's feelings of (I guess) embarrassment or denial that they are doing weird things or making messes that then have to be fixed...because I have tried just redoing things after or quietly fixing things...only for her to find out and be mean about that too.
I just don't know what to do anymore.