Am I the asshole for wanting my girlfriend to get a new suit for prom?
Hi, me and my girlfriend are seniors and our prom is in four weeks. I’m wearing an elegant purple dress. I chose purple because it’s my girlfriend‘s favorite color. Instead of getting a purple or black suit to match, she decided to get a suit that is covered in images of cartoon ducks. I get that she loves ducks and there’s nothing wrong with loving ducks. And I would be so cool with her having like some duck themed accessories, like socks, jewelry, and pins. But I and my parents agree that an imaged suit like that is not appropriate for a formal prom. I’m also frustrated because when I told her the whole reason I picked purple was because it’s her favorite color she gave me a half baked excuse and apology. So today, I asked her if she could at least go to Men’s Wearhouse and look at purple or black suits. And I even offered to buy a suit for her. But her and my sister are making me out to be the asshole. I know my wording isn’t the best but my intentions aren’t bad. I just don’t think a suit like that is appropriate and she was a bit disrespectful for not even considering getting a new suit so we could match after I told her I chose purple for her. Please let me know your opinion, I’d appreciate it.
EDIT AND UPDATE:
I understand how intentions can come across completely skewed over text like with this post and with my texts with my girlfriend. When I was texting her, I came off as jerky and rude so I apologized today and I told her that the inappropriateness is not the main reason I’m upset. It’s more that I’m disappointed that she’s not reciprocating my gesture. Anyways, we agreed to have some sort of matching motifs for our outfits. She’s going to have purple accessories and I’m going to have some duck themed accessories. It’s more of the theme of prom and the tradition that you’re supposed to be at least somewhat matching with your date and that’s something I value. Now for all the people saying I’m treating her like a prop…
I never told her to get a new suit. I said I would just appreciate if she would look at other suits. And that’s not happening because she already said no and I respect no’s. I’m not a devil over here lol. I’m just a pretty logical thinker and I believe based on other prompts that I’ve been to that that kind of pattern isn’t super appropriate, but like I said that’s not the important thing to me right now.
Thank you to all the people who said I’m the asshole and were actually kind about it. I take all constructive criticism kindly. To all the people who said I’m the asshole and weren’t kind about it, please remember that I am a CHILD and it’s not cool to be mean to children. I would say I’m a pretty whimsical person and I would be a fool not to love ducks so don’t go saying I’m a boring stiff who doesn’t like fun.
The lesson I learned here being, just learn to be a better communicator. Everything‘s fine now as of today. Thank you to all the kind people and all the people who were being rude in the comments, be better.