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Hi, I'm new to this subreddit but really would like some advice on this situation. So for some context, I am a student at a British Sixth form (school for 16-18 year olds before Uni) and am currently 17 and I am gay and have a boyfriend. Into the story, a couple weeks ago me and my boyfriend were sat in a common area and my boyfriend was stressing over his exams. naturally i went to comfort him and side hugged him (we arent the most openly affectionate at school) and in response he placed his head on my shoulder. As we were sat, one of the heads of the sixth form walked past, Ill call her L. L is generally grumpy in nature and scowled at us as she walked past, i thought nothing of it. We stayed like this for the majority of the lunch break and then i walked him to his lesson and hugged him before he went in before going to mine. The next day, as i walk in I see L enter the meeting room with the receptionist of the sixth form who handles safeguarding issues and such. At Break, I am pulled into a meeting with one of the assistant directors, ill call her N, of the school. I am told by N that i was reported for excessive PDA (Public displays of affection) and that i should stop as it was making the person who reported it 'uncomfortable'. Now heres the thing, alot more severe cases of PDA occur all over the school (kissing, groping, holding hands, hugging pretty much everything you can imagine) between straight couples. And this isnt the first time an LGBTQ+ couple has been told off for the slightest piece of affection, as a wlw couple had been told off for being sat too close together and holding hands, they went as far to do an assembly on it. I decided to send an email to N later on saying that this was a dramatic over reaction to the simple act of a side hug, and how ironic it was for this to be bought up on when there are straight couples with their tongues down eachothers throats and the only reaction they recieve is a resounding "awww". The next day I am pulled into yet another meeting by N and told it was never meant in any way, saying that shes an ally and was only responding to a report. Now for the last couple weeks me and my boyfriend have been given the meanest side eyes from L every day when she walks past us, and me and him are scared to show any sort of affection to one another. what should we do? should we double down, continue as we are? id like an outsiders opinion on this please, ive posted this on multiple subreddits so lets see qhat solutions people have
thank you for reading :)