I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (25M) for about 2 years, and lately I’ve been feeling really conflicted about our relationship. This isn’t the first time I’ve felt this way, which is what’s really getting to me.
There are a few ongoing issues that keep coming up:
First, he always has to be right. Any disagreement turns into him trying to “win” the argument. It usually ends with me going quiet because I’m tired of going back and forth, and he takes that as him getting his point across. It makes me feel unheard.
Second, if something bothers me but doesn’t bother him, he basically dismisses it. He’ll say things like “that’s you” or “I don’t have a problem with it,” instead of trying to understand why it upset me. It feels like my feelings only matter if he agrees with them.
Third, his mom doesn’t seem to like our relationship (I’m 3 years older), and he tells me the negative things she says. I’m a sensitive person, so of course it affects me. But if I say anything back about her, he gets offended, shuts down, and starts pouting. He also tends to go silent whenever he’s mad instead of talking things out, even though we agreed early on that we’d communicate face-to-face and not walk away from issues.
Another thing is family dynamics. We’re both very family-oriented and the oldest in our families, so we both get called on a lot. But he criticizes me for always being there for my family and says they depend on me too much, while he does the same for his family but doesn’t see it that way.
Also, he’s never introduced me to his friends in the entire 2 years we’ve been together. It’s not my biggest issue, but I do find it weird. When he’s out with them, he barely texts me and doesn’t really communicate.
At this point, I feel stuck. Part of me wants to stay because I do love him, but another part of me feels like I keep dealing with the same problems over and over again with no real change.
I guess I’m just looking for outside perspectives—am I overthinking this, or are these valid reasons to reconsider the relationship?