I’m an introvert, and my college just ended. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about my life. I’ve been single my whole life, and now I actually want to change that. But at the same time, I feel underconfident and I don’t go out much.
What confuses me is that I do have female friends and I can talk to them normally. So I keep asking myself what am I missing? One of my college friends even asked me, “You have female friends, so how are you still single?” and honestly, I had no answer. Everyone assumes i have a girlfriend but i don't.
After thinking about it a lot, I realized something I have a fear of rejection and the worst I think I reject myself before anyone else even gets the chance to. Looking back, I feel like I missed opportunities, and I regret that a lot.
I also compare myself to others a lot and feel like I’m not good enough. That mindset makes me give up before even trying.
And now that college is over, I feel kind of lonely. My friends are in different cities, everyone’s busy with their own lives, and we only talk sometimes. (And life is depressing rn)
It just feels like I held myself back all this time, and now I don’t know how to move forward.
Has anyone else felt like this? How do you start changing this mindset and actually put yourself out there?