My youngest brother with diagnosed autism is being continuously bullied.
To start with, I am using a throw away account and I am turning to Reddit for help. I don't even use Reddit. This feels almost like a last resort. Things have gone too far. I need help. Anyone and everyone's help. Sorry for any typos, grammatical mistakes, jumbled info, etc as I am in a more than unfavourable mental state.
I am F18, currently studying my last year of highschool. I am the eldest, and only daughter, of my family of five. I have two younger brothers. The youngest brother (let's call him Bill) is currently getting bullied at school by several boys in his class, and they won't stop no matter how much they have been reported to the teachers. I don't know what to do, as everytime these bullies have been suspended for a period of time they just come back to school and repeat the cycle. They are all still minors, and only in the 8th grade, and we don't know if the police can do anything to help.
Additionally, his older brother and I do not attend the same school as him (a public school), making it very very difficult for us to do anything, be a witness, etc. We all used to go to the same school, but moved after getting accepted into "better" ones.
**There have been multiple incidents of "pantsing" or Bill's pants getting forcefully pulled down and off in the gym changing rooms (which I have been informed is considered SEXUAL HARASSMENT), him getting punched/hit in the back head, him getting slapped, him getting pushed, him getting verbally assaulted (getting called names, being called "autistic" in a derogatory manner, etc), and much more . These bullies do not care about consequences, or punishments. After each suspension, or whatever half-assed disciplinary action the school has taken, does not affect them and continues to not affect them.**
While there have been other less pressing incidents in the past due to his nature and others seeing him as an "easy target", this year his classmates have entered the threshold where their behaviour can be considered repeated, targeted, deliberate, and continous bullying. It is difficult to talk to Bill about these things, not only because of his antisocial nature but also his dislike of being placed under circumstances where he knows emotions are heightened. Bill is not the type to ever seek out this kind of attention or pity. Bill keeps to himself, stays in his own lane, and stays out of trouble.
Bill's lack of a social circle means that he is often alone at school, making it even more dangerous as these bullies seem to have their egos fed each time they get off with the simple "punishment" of a week long suspension. I fear that their actions will only get worse. I mean, they probably have the time of their lives. They bully Bill, they get to stay home, then they come back to bully Bill again.
I don't know what to do. My parents' and my concern for Bill's mental health is growing every passing day. It is not easy to see him come home from school looking so, so downcast. This year has not and will continue to not be easy for me. This year has not been easy for any of us. I already have many, many things on my plate that are out of my control, and I refuse to allow for this to be something that I see as inescapable. I want Bill to feel safe at school. He already struggles with school academically, and I do not want him to dread school for both the reasons of bullying and not understanding his work. Is this too much to ask for?
Bill is stressed and anxious. He refuses to tell me or my parents the name of these bullies. The teachers and the principle refuse to inform us (most likely some law to protect these bullies). I don't want to say that I would beat up a bunch 13 and 14 year olds but. I do not know what else to do. I am distressed and I am furious. Every time my mother gets a call I grit my teeth because I know that chances are it is the same teacher calling her to tell her about another incident.
More context:
I know many of the staff and students at Bill's school. I used to be on the student coucil for 3 or 4 years. His teachers have most likely been my teachers. When I walk into that school, the school that has seen me cry and laugh and smile more than my family has, the school that I spent 11 years at, I do not want to see it as the place where my youngest brother does not feel safe at. I had only left the school for 1 year when I was urgently told by my mother that there had been an incident of students bullying my brother. Those teachers involved knew who I was, knew what I looked like before I left and began to wear a new uniform. When I walked out of the conference rooms after one of the first incidents involving Bill and those bullies, the teacher there bid me farewell and called me my name. I never thought that my returning to that school, after almost a year, would be because my autistic brother was and is getting bullied.
It is in my opinion that the teachers who seem to be in charge of my brother's year level do not do enough. When I hear their voices talk about these reoccurring situations, there is no trace of true remorse beyond their afternoon being taken away. Sometimes, I almost believe there are tones of condescension, as my mother sometimes struggles with English and has an accent as she is an immigrant (as am I; my family is Chinese). Many times I have wanted to snatch the phone off her and yell and scream at whoever is on the other end, but I do not think that will help this case and I know I am supposed to display a certain level of maturity at my age.
Additionally, the parents of these bullies remain put the picture. I do not know where they are, or if they have been called or talked to by the school.
It has almost been 3 months of this bullying occurring. My parents are looking to speak with psychologists for my brother's mental health. He's a tough and resilient little guy, but no one deserves to be bullied like this. No one.
I will try to answer questions, provide more detail if asked, etc. I might have to change a few details to protect me and my brother's identity, but I will try give as much info as possible.
**Please, people of Reddit. Parents with experience, victims of bullying, teachers. I do not know what to do.**
TLDR: My youngest brother with diagnosed autism is getting bullied relentlessly and disciplinary action taken by the school is not effective.