♍ Men:Are we 'Over-Engineering' our dating lives
Hi fellas,
As a ♍Rising guy, I’m starting to think I treat my dating life like a complex system that needs constant optimization. Lately, I’ve been finding it increasingly difficult to maintain a natural "flow" in flirty conversations—even with women who are clearly interested.
I’ll put in maximum effort to build a real connection, but I keep hitting a "binary" wall. I’m providing high-resolution effort and getting back 1-bit, one-word responses. I notice that the second I bring up a technical topic or dive into the "specs" of a subject I’m passionate about, the other person seems to disconnect.
It feels like most people aren't programmed for our level of transparency or the "system requirements" of our emotional depth. They see the data dump and move on before they actually see the value underneath.