obsession with his ex
i really want to stop being jealous but i don't understand the root of the problem. i save pictures that he sends to me if they aren't freshly taken to see whether the photo was taken during the time they were together. i start to wonder if he has sent the same photo to her and it makes me sick. he doesn't really use tiktok but when i used his phone a month back to watch it together. we scrolled past a few of her reposts and he did not seem to notice and i did not point it out despite being upset. i went through his phone and their old conversations when he wasn't around, and i scrolled through her reposts, many of which are about missing an ex. i confronted him with this information and he assured me that he doesn't have any feelings for her anymore. but knowing they have engaged in sexual conversations and activities before, i can't help but think that that version of him still exists in her mind. i don't understand why this bothers me so much even though i trusts that he won't leave.