I'm not pregnant on mother's day
I'm down 35lbs. I video called my mom yesterday for mother's day so she could see my kids. I had my phone propped up so she could see everyone and she got a view of my full body. She accused me of being pregnant, on mother's day 😩 for about 5 mins she insisted I was, told me I was lying and listed all the reasons why I HAD to be PREGNANT. Even started asking my husband and kids and accused THEM of lying. My husband tried to break the tension with a joke and she ended up taking him seriously and she claimed that he was right I am pregnant.
I've been working REALLY hard to lose weight and after struggling for months I got on zepbound. The weightloss has been steady and I'm down to 215 lbs. This is lowest weight I've been in about 5 years! I generally feel really good about my body. I started working out last week and it's stalled my progress as far as weight loss goes, to be expected. I feel stronger and have a lot more engery. I'm a pear shape and my stomach is very flat for my height/weight. So for her to accuse me of being pregnant on mother's day was really upsetting. She told me I'm way too big and I need to stop eating so much. Insisted I had to be pregnant. Well I'm not. I have a IUD and my husband and I use condoms. So I'm not pregnant....
I hate this feeling of wanting to be small enough to please someone else. My mom has always torn me down about my weight. Whether I was smaller or the size I am now. She never tells me I'm beautiful or that I look good. I never get that validation from her. Needless to say I spent a lot of mother's day sad and crying. My husband tried his best to cheer me up but it was just hard to recover from that video call 😩
This isn't the first time she's done this. I have asked her not to and whenever she goes down this rabbit hole of I must be pregnant I just stop talking to her for a while. When I see her in person she's judging my body and I'm anticipating her saying something to me. I try to keep the peace but I can't take her doing this anymore.