To keep it short, how to go about divorcing a spouse who is depressed and has stated they wanted to lull themselves in the past?
We’ve been married going on 11 years, over the course of that time her depression and alcoholism has completely taken over.
She has zero interest in going to counseling for herself or getting help with her depression and alcoholism. We’ve done marriage counseling in the past, it didn’t help.
I’m to the point now, where I’m numb and I don’t think I can regain feelings I once had. Every time I come home and she drunk or she comes home from work drunk, it kills me inside.
I never imagined being married to an alcoholic. I am not a consolable person, I am not good with talking about her depression and have acknowledged it. I have offered to arrange counseling for her, to no avail.
I’m at my wits end.
I want a divorce, but I’m terrified she’ll kill herself if I do. I love her very much but she’s not the person I married anymore. I can’t continue being lied to and constantly hurt by her alcoholism. However, I’ve stayed with her years now because I’m afraid she’ll kill herself.
TLDR: has anyone been in a marriage where spouse is depressed and you are worried about suicide? How did you handle it?