I'm autistic so I struggle a lot with how other people perceive me. I usually don't mind it, but in this particular case I do, so if you can only comment something like "wear whatever makes you happy" I know, you can save it. I'm looking for real insights on the perceptions of normie people.
For context, I live in Germany and I'm currently studying online. I'm a 26 yro femboy-ish man with a shaved head and silver, thin and round glasses. My wife thinks I have a very soft and innocent look, even when I'm serious. I usually wear dark cargo pants and dark tees with goth designs, and I'm afraid adding this choker will make me look too cvnty. I wonder if these kind of chokers that can actually choke you might be too inappropiate. I made one myself, that can actually only be opened or closed with a light lock (like the ones that come with teen private diaries). I don't want to be sexualised, or I'm not so sure about it, but I surely don't want to be sexualised by a teacher or classmates, even online. What do you think?
EDIT: thanks for the answers so far, i really appreciate them :)