u/Asleep-Dare5843

I would like to know what the Bible says regarding financially assisting parents almost all the time.

My parents are Christian and very religious, I wouldn't consider myself a Christian because I sin quite a lot, but I believe in the Lord and do wish to repent in the near future. My heart just aches right now and I'm stuck.

I have been financially helping my parents since I was 16, taking on the role that should have been fulfilled by my father. I am 21 now, married, and a mom, we are on a single income and struggle to afford bare necessities for ourselves. Sometimes when we have the extra money, we spend it on baby toys, baby clothes, baby stuff basically.

Almost all the time that my mother is sick (which is always, depression, anxiety, fibromyalgia, "broken" foot, IBS, thyroid disease, the list goes on) most of these are self diagnosed from reading online and googling symptoms. I don't want to invalidate my mother, but having all of those at the same time doesn't seem real to me.

My brother and I always help with their health bills because again, my father does not provide and he hates that my mother is always sick and doesn't/can't work. They are incredibly in debt and most days, they don't have $5 to spend.

It helps to know that we are in a third world country that does not have government assistance of any kind. Not even for healthcare.

My brother and I are always paying medical bills when we have our own bills to take care of and sometimes because of it, we can't buy our own basic needs.

Would it be a sin to basically cut them off financially? I would like to distance myself from them too, and move out of state or farther away. I feel such a big burden and I don't feel the same amount of respect for them that I used to. I fear that I don't love them as much either, and I struggle to see them as my parents and not just people who made me. I don't want to feel this way, but they just feel like a burden to me.

I feel guilty and my heart is torn apart. Sometimes when I do have money, I just don't want to help them because providing for my mom should be my father's responsibility. They are older, 50+ but still able bodied, my dad just is stubborn to make his business work when it gives little to no profit.

I'm stuck

Thank you.

Hello, my mom 48F had stroke symptoms yesterday, we live in different countries. I visit often. No one was there with her when it was happening and i did not find out until today when she told me.

She went to an eye doctor because the eye symptoms were happening on her left eye, which her pupil has been dilated for about a year now and they don't know why.

The doctor told her she needs to go to a neurologist to discard either heart attack or stroke.

They are in a third world country and do not have healthcare, or a good financial situation. All the studies are incredibly expensive.

My husband and i don't have the greatest financial situation either and i try and help. But on a single income and with a baby, it is difficult. We had to survive off of $0.15 cents for a whole week before he got paid.

My father does not give her money. He has a small store business and puts all the money in there and uses borrowed money from banks that are under her name, so she cannot borrow money either.

Anyways, my point is, how can she help herself at home? I'm trying to see if i can afford to help her with the neurologist appointment and pay it for her, but lately its been issue after issue and no one but my brother and my husband have been paying for her. My brother paid the eye appointment of today.

She also states to have no money to buy healthy groceries, her ankle had a hairline crack so no exercise at all, she is barely gaining mobility on it, and she has always had incredibly high cortisol and stress.

I dont know what to do.

Any advice would be incredibly beneficial.

I've been losing hair from the constant issues that they face, i'm barely 21 and my health has drastically declined from all of these things all the time. I feel responsible for them because i guess we make more, even when we cant really afford diapers for our own baby.

Thank you all