Okay, for so long I had to make a post about this. So, I'm a 21-year-old male, Shia Muslim, and I had engaged to a girl, Muta. And after three months, I found out that she liked someone else. So, I had broken up that engagement. After that, I thought that my parents would find a better one, but relying on my parents for almost a year, I was in hostel and thought that they will find me a new life partner soon as possible. But when I came home, when I got my vacation for three months, and I came home and saw my parents not taking this thing seriously, and as my physical needs are being overwhelmed, and I really need a second relationship, also expressed my concerns to my mom about this, but... I found out that they aren't taking it seriously and neither are making any efforts into finding a new bride so seriously. And as in a community, I am not able to find a good bride and as time is passing on, it's harder and harder to find a good bride of a suitable age to get engaged. And my parents are also not taking the seriousness of the situation because in this age, the age gap will get too big between a girl in a 12th and me being in a fourth year college student. What should I do? I am bounded to rely on my parents and still having Tawakkul on Allah. Should I take any steps about finding bride myself or should I rely on my parents to find a better bride?
I had been doing prayers and Amal and Duas for almost a year to get a good life partner and having Tawakkul on Allah, but I am slowly realizing that only Tawakkul on Allah is not gonna get things done. I think I need to put some effort by myself also, but I am tired of saying, expressing my opinion and my point of view to my mom. Even after that, they ain't taking this seriously and are busy with their own work life. I am an Islamic guy and I haven't been into an haram relationship, so I also don't know how to find. good life partner in a halal way then relying on my parents. Also, the thing is, whatever proposals I have received yet from others, I didn't found any of them being as such Islamic as us and our family and the Islamic point of views contradict. I wish I could get an Islamic girl, someone like from Iran. I don't know if this is right or wrong . but my ideal wife should be someone who is pure, such as Iranian girls wearing proper hijab, good in all aspects, having high education, ethics, moral values, also an intellect, good intellect as mine. But I don't know how could I accomplish this, but I hope Allah shows me a better way through this post.
If u have any opinion or way. Plss help me out my brothers and sisters.
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