I'm 18 and never had someone to talk about my woman body. I learned about my first period at school since my mom didn't want to have that talk with me and she always said that going to the gynecologist is a waste of time. Recently, I moved to live with my dad and my grandparents after living with my mom (who I don't have a good relationship with) and he wants me to go to a gynecologist because without realizing, I told my grandma I never went to one.
The thing is, I'm very shy and self conscious over my body, and yes, including down there because for a long time, I had access weight and got stretch marks, some have faded to white, but some are still red but I'm working on losing weight. Ever since my dad told me that he was going to make an appointment, I've been on a rabbit hole on what happens on a gynecologist appointment and I read that they examine "down there"... I don't feel comfortable doing that, especially with a doctor I never met.
I've never been sexually active and I don't know really know how the female body works. I'm really scared for the appointment as I'm scared what they would want to do.
I just really want to know, is they want to examine "down there", can I say no? And if I say no, will they try to change my mind or judge me?