My MIL has advanced vascular dementia and her husband has Alzheimer’s and prostate cancer. They’re living in assisted living in Ontario, and on the wait list for LTC. My husband is the POA for both of them, though only active for his mom as his stepdad was assessed to still have capacity.
MIL is refusing her dementia meds because she says it gives her headaches, and refuses to take Tylenol.
The biggest issue is that she is very agitated by her husband and says she wants to live apart from him. Problem is, they barely have enough money as it is to afford tiny studio in AL, and they’re not considered crisis to get into LTC. Even in LTC and they were subsidized, I can’t imagine how she could get along with others in a basic room to qualify for subsidy.
Living with us isn’t an option as we don’t have the room with two young kids.
Husband is working on getting more external supports and community visits, but not sure if that’ll be enough.
Has anyone run into this kind of situation? What options do we really have about her meds and living situation?