Safe spaces / code of conduct
Location: DMV and greater region - I have an ex who is exploiting the code of conduct system.of his business and others to try and make my life miserable.
We have a shared hobby and mutual friends so avoiding him isn't really possible. Although I’ve stayed away from him in shared spaces and blocked him on all electronic platforms, he currently - several months later - is still harassing me. I have been told by organizers to “disengage” or “de-escalate” even though he is the aggressor. Because after repeatedly telling him to keep his distance I finally said “stay the fuck away from me” and then I was the one given a warning.
He is also leveraging a previous text exchange from months ago that was consensual to humiliate me as it contains information of a sexual nature. He has been sharing screen shots of our private text conversations from when we were still “friends” after the breakup. It’s caused an abrupt change in how I’m being treated by others.
Our mutual friends have mostly taken his side.
This man has a history of using legal systems to torment people (his ex wife, former clients, former employers, etc) but when I try to show a pattern to prove that I’m not the problem, I’m told by friends and organizers that is hearsay or not relevant to the current situation. Even when I show friends proof of his brush with the law they say “I’m uncomfortable with this”
Why is a public record of his malfeasance a breach of privacy but him sharing my text messages isn’t?!?!
It’s causing me immense emotional distress at venues. But when I mentioned that while speaking to organizers, I was even told to “go take my medicine then” or “learn to regulate my own emotions” instead of them doing something about the problem- HIM.
Is there anything that I can do to protect myself? He won’t stop. I've spoken with a lawyer in each area and they all just say "document everything."
How exactly.is a diary gonna stop.him?