Hi, I’m F25 and I’m living with my boyfriend, M26 now since a little over a year. I try to visit my mom (F51) as often as I can but it never seems to be enough for her. I’m already visiting her this month and twice next month for special occasions. And yet, she’s trying to find other excuses for me to visit. When I was living there, I wasn’t doing good because of how she treated me (per example, threatening to kick me out because I was having a hard time with my mental health). Right now, her husband works a lot and my brother goes to night school so she’s often alone and doesn’t really have friends she can hangout with or hobbies to pass the time. I feel for her loneliness but her children is not the solution for it, especially since I need distance from her now that I’ve moved out. How could I make it clear to her that she has unrealistic expectations of how often I should visit her? Without hurting her feelings preferably
Note: I also live 45 minutes away from her and she never comes to visit me, my boyfriend always has to drive me there (I’m finishing up my license classes)
**TL;DR; : My mother has unrealistic expectations on how often I should visit her and I personally need distance from her to help the relationship.