u/Any-Host690

Hey everyone,
I just need to get this off my chest because I feel completely stuck in life.
I met a girl at a wedding about 10 years ago. We were young, and over time we got really close. I truly loved her, and I always felt she loved me too. We were deeply connected for years.
But things changed.
She became close to one of her classmates (he’s also a doctor, like her — she’s a BAMS doctor from Haryana). At first, she said he was “just a friend,” but slowly I started noticing changes. She began drinking sometimes, even doing things she never used to do before. I felt like she was getting influenced by him.
I tried to bring her back, to fix things, but instead she pushed me away.
She started asking for “space” — first a few days, then a month, then more. But the truth was, while asking me to stay away, she was spending all her time with him. It broke me. I couldn’t understand how someone I loved so much could treat me like this.
Whenever I questioned her, she made me feel like I was the problem. She even made me look like the villain in front of her friends and family. No one supported me — everyone believed her side.
There were moments that still haunt me:
On her birthday, I tried to call her… she didn’t pick up. Later I found out she was with him in a hotel.
Same thing happened on Valentine’s Day.
She would tell me not to contact her, while being with him every single day.
I was emotionally trapped. I loved her too much to leave, but staying was destroying me.
Eventually, she completely cut me off around June. After that, she openly started living her life with him without hiding anything.
Then later, she moved to Gurgaon, started working in a civil hospital… and finally got married to another guy from a well-settled family. He’s also a doctor, currently in Jind.
And here I am…
I gave almost 10 years of my life to her. I’m still stuck in those memories. I can’t move on, no matter how hard I try. It feels like I lost a part of myself.
Meanwhile, she has completely moved on, built a new life, and I’m still mentally in the past.
I don’t know what to do anymore.
How do you actually move on from something like this?
Any real advice would mean a lot.