My family is totally backwards thinking and makes me do all the chores AND is physically abusive ..( just a rant because I'm pissed)
So , I'm a 18yr old Female . I have to live with my parents. I'm from India and as you might know, what kind of views does the society here hold .
Little background info , I currently live in a village though I'm giving the exam so I can move out and go far away for college. And my family is very backwards minded.
Basically I'm the older child. My you get brother is 13 yr old almost. I'm the one who does chores in the house. Chores as in sweeping the floor , mopping, dishes , dusting , making food on lotsof days and many itty bitty chores that add up throughout the day. I'd be studying for my exam and they'd make me get up to do chores for them even though my brother would be sitting right there. And they still expect top grades from me. And I have been tolerating this bullshit for a long while.
It's not jsut that. My parents hit us . Both. Not just me ( hitting me has gone down because I have grown up. Not because I'm grown up but because if they hit such a big girl , the neighbours will talk like what could I have done to get hit . My dad hits my mom. Talks down to her. I have literally heard him tell her she's equal to the shoes in his feet. We have financial problems so much mother has taken to being a tailor . She gets orders from a cousin of hers who sells fabrics. That's irrelevant. But yeah. She earns too. My dad doesn't earn much too. And he's liar. He lies about stuff here and there. About everything.
I have been tolerating these conditions for a while now . And the other general stuff women face. Bodyshaming by my mother ( she gets so triggered when I don't get affected by her taunts) .
Calling me names . I am not even allowed to wear jeans. I don't even own them. I don't have a single shorts. I don't have a single crop top , tank top or just top in general . Only shirts. The only things I have to wear are suit and kurta and kurti . It's not Even that I hate them. But I'm beginning to simply because I'm having to wear them and I don't have the option to wear something else even if I want to.
According to her , cooking, cleaning and all that is a women's job. I ask my brother to wash his own dishes after he's eaten. He doesn't when he feels like it. But the days he doesn't,I scold him. And if it turns into slightly raised voices between us , both my mom and dad jump in between by saying " so now he is going to wash dishes? A boy will wash dishes? Is it his job ?"
And it gets me so so pissed.
I feel like the closer I get to moving out of my house ,the patience and tolerance I've built up till now is running out. And each incident like this makes me blood boil.