u/Anxiously_Yours626

After giving everything up to care for my elderly grandparents, after just a few months of caring for them my grandma has decided other family members are more fit (she’s convinced I’m having an affair with her husband…. My GRANDFATHER, because we’re close) to care for her and has decided to kick me out. I wish I could say I did something to deserve this, or saw it coming; but I didn’t. She had a bit blow up, kicked me out and gave me three days then took pity and gave me until mid May. The thing about moving in to take care of them meant I gave everything up. So now I’ve scraped everything I have together and have enough for the deposit but absolutely nowhere I’ve looked can help me with the first month rent and I’m slowly coming to the realization that I’ll be homeless in a week. How can family do this to one another? How can she JUSTIFY doing this? She’s under the impression renting is cheap. Back when she could get a 2 bedroom for $200 a month. It’s a process and she doesn’t care; I have a week and I’m just so overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. I’ve reached out to every resource possible and don’t meet the criteria for most because I’m not on the verge of eviction. I’m just- SO FUCKING IRRITATED. I knew I shouldn’t have intertwined myself back in their toxic webs, but I felt bad. Now I’m paying for it.

To preface this; family FUCK YOU OVER WORSE THAN ANYONE ELSE. I had a solid foundation and life. I’ve always been the default in my family that everybody turns to and leans on. Wanna know how many kids I’ve raised? 8. Wanna know how many kids I’ve had myself? 0. I’m always the one people can rely on, and I’ve always let them take advantage of it. A few years ago I said no more, moved out, became stable and independent and stopped being the one everyone leaned on. Then I began slipping up. Soon I was the one taking people to appointments, then it was me on the phone with doctors and banks and lawyers and I was taking kids to school and doing registration and… slowly, I became a provider, again, for my two nephews and niece. That’s fine, whatever. But last year I stupidly allowed my family talking me into giving up my independence to move in and help my grandparents. They’re both in very fragile stages of their life (or so I thought) and need someone to rely on 24/7. So I do it. I move in to help. First few months; great. Then I slowly began to discover I have my own health issues I’m trying to figure out. But apparently focusing on myself isn’t allowed. My grandma grew agitated with my lack of energy most days, and began making ENTIRELY off the wall accusations. I won’t say what they were (having an affair with her husband was definitely one of them) but I grew increasingly uncomfortable. Then it all reached a boiling point a few weeks ago when my BROTHER did something to irritate her, so now she’s kicked me out. She originally gave me 3 days, but then took pity and has given me until the middle of May. I stupidly thought I could do it but coming up with money for rent and a deposit in this economy is so fucking hard and I’m so frustrated and overwhelmed and have reached out to every possible resource I can but either 1) I don’t meet the criteria (must be close to being evicted) or 2) they don’t have the funds to help either. I’m going to be homeless and I feel so stupid for giving up my life to move in and be their caretakers. Sorry, I know it’s none of your faults I’m just so incredibly upset and stressed and I don’t know what to do from here. I grew up with the impression family was everything; I’ve just had to learn the hard way that isn’t true.