Hi all! Honestly just hoping getting this out will help me shake some of the disappointment, anger, and regret I’ve been feeling since my bachelorette weekend.
I invited 5 girls and one old college friend who genuinely invited herself (long story)… which looking back was the first mistake. I should’ve spoken up then and said NO because she ended up being a big part of what went wrong.
Anyway the weekend actually started off pretty good. First night was chill... dinner at home, drinks, running errands, good vibes all around. The “problem” friend (I’ll call her Sarah) was annoying but still manageable.
The next day we all did our own thing in the morning and planned to go bar hopping together in the afternoon. That’s when Sarah tells us she’s actually going to visit other friends an hour away and will miss the day. I thought that was kind of rude (especially since she inserted herself into the trip) but I didn’t mind the break from her lol
We go and one of my other friends (I’ll call her Mary) is in a bad mood the entireee time. She had already complained about some of the bars on the itinerary so it felt like she was mad we weren't going to places she wanted. She stayed silent and clearly irritated front start to finish. I tried to ignore it and enjoy myself but even looking back at pictures you can literally see her refusing to smile in a single one!!
That night at dinner Sarah is on 1000 - loud, saying wild things, making everything ab her.. just a lot. Apparently she even made some inappropriate/racist jokes (I didn’t hear them but heard after). At this point, everything just starts spiraling. I’m overstimulated, people are complaining nonstop, and I end up snapping at one of the girls and now everyone is fighting. We go to a club, get a free table + drinks (which should have been amazing), but a couple girls feel uncomfortable with the setup and just leave without telling anyone. I'm not ready to go so we stay out, end up at another bar until 4am, absolutely destroy our sleep schedule from here on out.
The last day was supposed to be calm (boat tour and lunch) but somehow it’s just more arguing. Mary even confronts me on the boat in front of everyone because she thinks I’m mad at her (I wasn’t and was totally normal ??). At that point I could literally feel myself shutting down from all the tension.
That night was the thing I was most excited about... We were meeting up with my fiancé and his friends for a big dinner and then a private bar rental. And somehow (unsurprisingly at this point lol)… that got ruined too. Sarah was irritating the guys, Mary was sulking, I felt awful but was trying to push through, and then the group basically convinced me to cancel the bar. I was tired but it still really hurt. It felt like my one chance to have that fun night with EVERYONE for once and it just disappeared.
The trip home was a whole other mess (my fiancés friend totally screwed up the last day which caused SO many issues I wont get into) but by the end of it all I just cried the entire flight back. I felt so disappointed that everything went so badly, guilty that people spent money on a trip that wasn’t fun, stressed about potential drama at my wedding, and honestly just hurt. It feels like I always show up for my friends, and no one could just hold it together for me this one time. I had a bad feeling going into the weekend, and somehow it turned out even worse than I expected. I don’t even know what to do with all of this now - Im just so sad over it all & nervous for my wedding