When my partner and I were just starting to plan our wedding, I got excited and casually mentioned to a former friend that we might ask her mom to be one of our wedding sponsors (ninang), especially since my own mom liked her.
However, over time, I experienced repeated disrespect from that friend, and it made me see things differently. I also feel like her behavior is tolerated by her family, which makes me uncomfortable.
Now that we’re finalizing our guest list and sponsors, I don’t feel at peace including her mom anymore—even though I mentioned it before.
Would it be wrong if I don’t go through with it?
I just want to be surrounded by people I genuinely respect and feel comfortable with on my wedding day.
u/AnxietyGrouchy9069 — 10 days ago