Location: London
Hi, sorry if this is long.
I’m a woman in my early 30s and I live alone in a one bed flat. I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this or if I should actually report my neighbour.
He lives on the ground floor with his girlfriend and I’m on the top floor. They’re both at least 10 years older than me. Their behaviour is really erratic and it’s pretty obvious to everyone in the building that they’re heavily on drugs. They don’t seem to work and their front door is always damaged (like kicked in, holes in it etc). There’s always just a weird vibe around them.
The main issue is the guy.
Every time I leave the building, or even if I’m just nearby, he will literally run after me to “see how I am”. Not like casually walking over, I mean actually running to me. It’s happened quite a few times now and it’s starting to really creep me out.
The other day I crossed the road and he ran after me again and nearly got hit by a car doing it. That’s how much he’s trying to catch up with me. I don’t even know his name and he doesn’t know mine, we’ve never had proper conversations.
He’s also said to me that he “can’t stop thinking about me” which made me really uncomfortable.
Another time, around midnight, I was taking loads of bin bags down to the bin shed (I had just done a big clear out so I had loads and I had to do multiple trips). Every time I went down he kept appearing and walking past me. After the third time it started to feel weird. He then asked if I needed help and I said no and told him it was my last trip (it wasn’t, I just wanted to leave). He then said “are you lying to me” which really freaked me out. I ended up calling my dad right then and there because I felt so uneasy.
His girlfriend doesn’t make me feel unsafe in the same way, but every time she sees me she comments on my appearance. It’s not negative or anything, always nice, but it does feel a bit intense combined with everything else.
He hasn’t actually touched me or threatened me or anything like that, but I feel really uncomfortable in my own building now and I’m starting to dread running into him.
I don’t want to mess up someone’s housing situation if I’m overreacting, but at the same time this doesn’t feel normal.
Would you report this to a landlord or just leave it?